Category: Parenting

It is springbreak here in Arkansas.  I am enjoying it KID FREE!!  My oldest has gone to his great-grandmothers and the two younger ones are with my mother at my sisters house.  I miss my kiddos terrible, however, I am enjoying the peace and quiet with the hubby.  The reason for this post is a couple of things: how parenting styles differ and how do you parent.

I am not going to lie and say my kids are the best ever.  They have their faults.  Jake is super smart and he knows it.  He goes out of his way to make Ireland feel ignorant and inferior.  He also stands 6’2 so he bullies the younger two as well.  But he is funny.  When he decides to talk to us and spend time with us, he is so funny.  We have to make him have family time, even sitting at dinner with us is a chore for him.  I am hoping this to shall pass.  Ireland is super sweet when she wants to be.  But man that attitude.  She can be just as mean and ugly.  TK, well, he is a product of his raising for sure.  Super spoiled.  He is so much younger than the other two that everyone has doted on him, including me.  But how sweet he is when he gives you a super tight squeeze and tells you that you are the best mom ever.

I am too easy on my kids.  I am not going to deny it.  I came from a very rough upbringing and tend to be to easy on my kids.  I do expect them to be respectful.  That is a given.  I do let them speak their mind, just because they are kids doesn’t mean they don’t have an opinion, but they have to be respectful about it.  I probably allow them to say things that I shouldn’t.  I do not allow them to put their hands on each other and say ugly mean things to one another.  I do not believe that play fighting with guns, fists, swords is healthy.  My brother dislocated my shoulder once when we were younger fighting like this.  That’s not healthy.  I don’t allow them to use my furniture as a jungle gym.  My husband works hard for the things that we have.  Be respectful to other people’s things.  I expect them to pitch in around the house. They make the mess too. I don’t expect them to eat food they don’t like. We have a rule that you have to try a bite of it before you say I don’t like it.  Jake hates white chili, but every time I make it, he has to take a bite. Tastes change.  Some parents make their children eat it regardless.  One time when I was younger I had to do that and wound up getting sick all over the table. To this day I refuse to eat corn from a can, I know it’s all in my head.  But it was a traumatic event!!

My point is, because I realize I ramble, I am not delusional, I am not the best disciplinarian, I am not the best parent.  I love my kids. I want them to do well. I want them to be good productive adults.  I want them to look back on their childhood and have fond memories, not bad ones.  But where is the happy medium for me to be a good disciplinarian and a good loving mother?  Where do I draw that line?  Why is it so hard for me to give them consequences? I don’t want to be the cause of my kids sadness, but I feel I am doing them no favors.  How do you deal with discipline in your household? How do you stay consistent?  I need all the help I can get I think.  My hubby tells me all the time I am too easy on them.  I spoil them.  I know I do. So what do I do now?  And how can I not love these faces??

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Sleep is over rated, right?

I have several sleep disorders, self diagnosed mind you. I go through stages where as soon as I lay down, I am hard and fast asleep. However, the more prominent of my issues is insomnia. It will stick around for weeks. No matter how tired I am, I can not fall asleep.  The reason I tell you this is because it seems I have passed this on the TK.  Now, as parents, we all know the importance of a good nights sleep for them.  Same for us but they need that rest for healthy growth all around.

The problem is, I am at my wits end with how to help him rest. He hasn’t napped since he was 2 and he just goes and goes and goes. I would like to bottle up that energy and sell it or take it since we don’t sleep.  You know that if he isn’t sleeping, I am not sleeping. Even on the nights when I could go to sleep, I am up with him.  Tk takes a high dose prescription antihistamine because he produces to much histamine. You can scratch him a little and it swells up and gets angry red. Don’t get me started on what bug bites do to him.  The doctor’s have suggested benadryl, but he is already on so much how is that safe? We have tried Melatonin, quiet space, lights on, laying with him, leaving him by himself. Nothing seems to work.

He walks around with giant dark circles under his eyes.  But you never know he is tired besides that.  He runs and jumps and plays and talks nonstop.  This is a picture of him on Wednesday when he had 3 hours of sleep to go to Kindergarten registration.  Still, never napped and was up until 2 that morning.  Something has to give for him.  I have talked to the doctors, I have followed their advice.  No, I will not put my 5 year old on sleep aids.  That’s crazy.


SO I am reaching out to all the moms out there, to give me any advice you can think of.  I am willing to do whatever I can to help him and me  without putting him on prescription or OTC sleep aids.  So moms, what are your thoughts? Please reach out and help!!!

Hello and welcome. Thank you for stopping by. My name is Leah. I am relatively new to the blogoshpere.  So I am going to assume this first post is going to suck. But, I am willing to keep at it and get better. I love to read other people’s blogs, even though I don’t know them from Adam. I know about their kids, their jobs, spouses, the works.  But I read them because they entertain me or teach me. Even though I am 35 and the mother of 3 amazing kiddos, I am a little biased on that subject, I am never to old to stop learning. Learning how to be a better mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend.

That being said here is a little about me.  I have lived all over the southern midwest states. No not an army brat, my mother has gypsy blood I believe.  I attended 24 different schools. So I am from nowhere and everywhere but tell people I am from New Mexico, that’s where we lived the longest. Now I am in Arkansas married to an amazing man and live our life with our babies.  And by babies I mean they are 14, 12, and 5.  Dan, my husband, works and provides for us. I stay home with the little one, TK. I would have to say that I am a terrible “homemaker” though. I never quite get the house clean because I am easily distracted.  I think I am a horrible cook, even though I am told otherwise. Maybe that’s because it’s not my favorite thing to do. I never fold socks together because it makes me crazy. And not folding them makes me family crazy.

My kiddos are Jake, Ireland, and TK.  Jake is in his first year of high school and Ireland middle school. They are as different as night and day. Jake is very introverted but so funny when he decides to talk to us. Ireland can’t stop talking or finish a thought for that matter. But she’s so sweet when she wants to be.  TK is a sassy mouthed 5 year old obsessed with Mario and Sonic. It’s hard to get upset over his mouth when he comes by it honestly.  They keep my life interesting.  There is a lot of disagreements and tempers but at the end of the day, they are my everything.

We are blessed with some amazing friends since we moved to Central Arkansas.  I am not sure that I have ever had friends that I truly call family until now.  We spend a lot of time together hanging out and definitely making memories for each other and our families.  I am sure that I will talk about them a lot as well.

So there is a little about my life. This blog is going to be filled with day to day craziness of my life. As well as some other good content.  A hodge podge if you will.  Some recipes, advice, whining, and product reviews of some of the things I keep myself busy with during the day. Because I am sure it is not spent cleaning properly. Thanks for stopping by and hope to see you next time with some good content!


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